So there I am driving on a brisk Monday night to my softball game, listening to some great music (my opinion, shared by no one else) very loud, getting myself pumped for our playoff game. After my normal stretching it was show time. Since we are the away team, we get to bat first and we come out of the box really quickly by scoring six runs. I bat second in the order and hit the ball over the left centerfielder’s head for a double. My next at bat, I came up and took an outside pitch and drove the ball over the right fielder’s head for a triple. At this point in the game we have a four run lead. The team we are playing is very solid and has won the championship trophy a number of times. In my next at bat I crush the ball fifteen feet over the second baseman’s head and in front of the centerfielder for a line drive single.
As the game went on there was a little more of a breeze which was blowing out towards left field and the temperature was dropping to probably about 50 at this point. We were behind at this point by a few runs but made a nice comeback and took a two-run lead going into the last inning. I was up forth that inning and as luck would have it, all three of my teammates got on, so the bases were loaded.
As I am walking up to the batter’s box, my mind is going in a million different directions: It’s the last inning of a playoff game, perhaps my last game playing competitively, we have a two run lead, the bases are loaded and of course…
Where should I hit the ball?
What should I do?
As I take the slow walk, I recall that I already have a single, double, triple in the game and how cool would it be to add a home run! A grand slam! To hit for the cycle. As a point of reference I want to say that I have been playing softball for thirty years and haven’t hit for the cycle in a very long time. In addition I can remember the last time I hit an automatic home run (not one I had to run out) over the fence. It was six years ago in Boston on my birthday – what a feeling! There is nothing like hitting a home run over the fence. Rounding the bases is so much fun and entails so much emotion.
Anyway back to this game. What should I have done? Quickly here are my choices:
- Only swing at a good pitch. And if they walk me it’s a run.
- Hit the ball to right field and score two runs!
- Try to drive the ball into a gap and clear the bases!
- Try and hit the ball over the fence
As I said hello to the umpire which I always do (as most of you know I will talk to anyone), I made my final decision. I want the cycle! I want to try and hit the ball over the left field fence which is about 290 feet away. As the first pitch comes in, it’s outside for ball one (never swing at the first pitch). The second pitch was a little inside but perfect for what I was trying to do. I crush this ball. It’s high, long, deep and as the left fielder (a friend of mine who is the best player on the other team) turns and heads back to the fence, I am saying to myself, this ball has a chance to go make it. To go over the fence! For a home run! For a grand slam! For the cycle! Well not exactly. The ball was 18 inches short of reaching the fence, and my buddy Dean caught the ball much to my surprise and unhappiness. No home run, no grand slam, no cycle! The good news is, a run came in and we had the lead 14-11 going into the bottom of the 7th. The bad news is we lost 15-14 with two outs in the inning. Southlake Tavern came back and scored four times to move on to the championship game.
After the game I sat in the stands and watched the first inning of the championship game. I was thinking about the game and my choice. My selfish choice. I pride myself on being a team player all the time, 365 days a year. Not this day, not this time! I was selfish! I made a mistake and went for the personal glory when I should have driven the ball, hit a single and scored a few runs and our team would have been playing in the championship game.
- What would you have done in my situation?
- How selfish was I in your eyes?
- Have there been times when you weren’t as team-oriented as you should have been?
- How did it work out for you?
I look forward to reading your comments.
P.S. To my teammates: I am truly sorry for letting you down. I know better!


Fee Sepahi says:
Hi Merrill,
After 30 years, please!!!! I say, you walked up, in your typical friendly demeanor, with all your choices intact and you gave it the best shot you had. 18 inches and the best outfielder of the other team, are things to be proud of. Yah, hitting the grand would have been great, but you could have fouled out, hit into a double etc.
You stand tall and I’m sure there was not a single selfish act in your effort and you gave it the best shot you knew you could.
Thanks,
Fee
Owen Jenkins says:
Don’t over think it. You didn’t fail.The team failed.
Heh if the guy on first had hit a double instead walking (or singling)you would have been 4 runs up. And how about your pitching and defense. Blowing a six run lead after one and taking a two run lead into the last inning. Should I go on? You all lost- just as you all would have won. That is a team game.
Merrill Dubrow says:
Fee and Owen,
Appreciate your comments and support. It is certainly a team game and clearly we win and lose as a team. I think if I had to do it all over again I would have just tried to hit a ball in the gap. Life is full of learning and this was another one.
Enjoy the holiday’s.
Merrill
Adam says:
Merrill,
I love to hear about your selfishness. I would have done the exact same thing. Think about the bragging rights you would have for years hitting that ball over. You gave it a ride and it didn’t work out. My suggestion would be to work out a little harder and next time the result might be different. Keep playing ball, it keeps you young.
A
Jim Quilty says:
Merrill,
I really do not think you were selfish at all. You clearly went with the pitch and gave it your best. You were being a team member by trying to bring in as many runs as possible, which evidently your team needed (as I was reading your story and tallying up all the lead changes and runs, the batteries ran out on my HP12c…).
Merry Christmas Merrill-
Jim