Everyone has an opinion and most people like to share it. Well today is the day where you can share your opinion and give some advice. You can base your advice on a gut feeling, experiences you have had, maybe a book you have read or something your parents taught you many years ago.
Here are the subjects you can give advice on:
- Someone just graduated college – what advice do you have for them?
- Someone just got laid off – what advice do you have for them?
- Someone just got into a heated argument with their best friend – what advice do you have?
- Someone just broke up with their significant other - what advice do you have for them?
- Someone got caught skipping school – what advice do you have for them?
- Someone is struggling to pay their bills - what advice do you have for them?
- Someone isn’t speaking to their parents or siblings - what advice do you have for them?
- Someone didn’t get that promotion they were promised – what advice do you have for them?
I hope you will pick one or more of the topics and give your advice.
I look forward to reading your comments.
Christine Cook says:
I always say that things happen for a reason; we just don’t always know why. It will work out. I know this from experience.
Like the time I didn’t get my VP wings. Turns out they moved the headquarters from Denver to Atlanta within 6 months. I would have had to move to keep my job, but I couldn’t because I was a single parent of young twins and wouldn’t move them away from their Dad and family. I ended up staying in Denver and got my VP wings 8 months later.
One time I applied for a job at a large brand and didn’t get. I was upset at the time, but six months later I bought my current company from Cox Broadcasting and have owned it every since.
Or what about my leaving and working for a big brand for a year? The commute was wearing and my husband didn’t want to move to Chicago. As it turns out I left after one year, came home to Denver and started the industry’s first “reality” research facility and it’s going really well. Additionally, what I learned about the big brand is invaluable. I know so much more today and grateful for the experience.
Merrill, these are all really good questions. I actually started a book that I will finish someday. It’s called “An Elephant Never Forget”. It’s all about dealing with life’s disappointments and getting past them and being able to look at all of the positive things gained through the experience.
Thanks for including my comments!
Fee Sepahi says:
Hi Merrill,
Great topic and I would agree with Christine and say that from where I sit, there are no coincidences in life and that all that we/I go through, is a result of cause and effect and my intentions and focus.
For most of the points you mentioned above, I believe and I fully operate in the fact that a seemingly negative event (being downsized, restructured, missing a promotion 3 or more times in my career etc.) is 1st an opportunity to look at what I could have done differently to “secure” my position, if anything at all assuming they weren’t based on an external force, and secondly looking at the opportunities in front of me and how I can train myself better. What resources I have available to me, that I can make myself a more marketable entity and how I may be able to structure my life, to work with what’s in place. For instance the 1st time I was restructured, I wallowed in pity and make wrong and the 2nd time, I found out about Right Management and got myself needed training through the state etc.
Life for me is all about learning and all that’s possible and I hope it doesn’t end too soon!
Fee
kelly says:
Heated argument with a friend – most of the time it is better to be friends than to be right.
Family – You can’t pick your family but you also cannot replace the ties you have with them. Unless the relationship is truly unhealthy figure out what dosage you can take and make it work.
Someone who just graduated college – go get ‘em and get ready to work now. Asking questions is respected in the business world.
Merrill Shugoll says:
For whatever it is worth, here is my philosophy on living a happy life:
1.Get an education. Your education is the one thing that can’t be stolen from you. Stay in school and put your education to good use.
2. When one door closes, another will definitely open if you are watching, and it will have a new opportunity with your name on it.
3. Never go to sleep angry. Take a moment to see another person’s point-of-view, and always say you are sorry, even if you think you have nothing to be sorry for.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, and be willing and ready to offer help whenever someone needs it from you.
5. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Never give up. You learn more from your failures than your successes.
Amy Shields says:
The ONE question I always ask when I am upset with someone I love (friend or family) is SIMPLY this: “If (God forbid) something happened to this person/to me, how would I/they feel about the way things were handled?” If it’s with anything less than mutual respect and dignity, then I don’t waste the negative energy on it. We are not always going to agree with those we care about and we certainly can’t change anyone else…we can lead by positive example and hopefully influence and inspire change in a productive manner.
Tammie says:
I have some experience on what to do after being laid off. Set aside the emotional stage for just a bit, and review whatever HR gave you (re benefits, etc) and go straight to your state’s unemployment website (google it – easy to find). Read their home pages and info pages carefully. Sign up to apply for benefits. You’ll feel better taking action. It may take another day or two, but return to that site for the opportunities there – it really is worthwhile to check out the free seminars, meet with a counselor, and find out what education they will pay for. It’s surprising! Check out job search websites that pull from multiple websites – Indeed.com is a great one. But then take some time. Go back to your emotional issues. Spend time with friends that will listen. Then commit to some FREE time for yourself. You need time doing something you NEVER had time for, to allow your mind to release. It is amazing the random thought about your future that will motivate you to consider all possibilities when you take long walks, visit a museum, or do something to free your mind from worry.