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Even Though I Met My Goals–Somehow They Just Aren’t Right!

In September my son Justin started to play soccer. It was 3 on 3 co-ed soccer on a small field with no goalie. I was so excited that Justin was about to play a somewhat organized sport. When I was a kid I did play a number of sports but soccer wasn’t really popular so, I really never played organized soccer. I couldn’t wait to see him in action. If you haven’t seen 5-year-olds playing soccer, it is very funny and really cute. The ball goes to the left 6 people go to the left. The ball goes in the other direction and guess what… 6 kids (with smiles on their faces) go in that direction.

Being goal-oriented I, gave some thought to what I had hoped he would get out of the program:

  • Show up on time and participate
  • Enjoy the game
  • Not cry
  • Score a few goals (everyone wants their kid to score)
  • Constantly have a smile on his face

Those goals seem reasonable and probably none of them are out of the ordinary.

Here are the goals I set up for myself:

  • Try not to miss any games (99% of them are on the weekends)
  • Cheer him on – go Justin go!
  • Not yell at the coach or anyone else – yes this happens in Texas and in other states!
  • Spend some extra time with him by taking him out for lunch after the game
  • Leave my BlackBerry in the car

Most of my goals are normal but frankly the last one really bothers me a lot. I have to make a conscience decision to leave my BlackBerry in the car. I have to give consideration to being out of pocket for one hour while Justin runs up and down the field. It just doesn’t seem right! It is very sad that I didn’t want him to say “hey Dad, look at me” and see me sending business or personal emails.

I hope you are smarter than I am and don’t need to set a goal to do the right thing.

What was happening in your life when you questioned some of your priorities?

I look forward to your comments.

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