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Friday, July 29th, 2016

The Merrill Dubrow Blog

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Thanks for reading!

Thanks for listening!

Thanks for thinking!

Thanks for commenting!

Thanks for your friendship!

Thanks for your loyalty!

Thanks for making a difference!

And most of all, thanks for teaching me along the way!

Are you growing old gracefully?

Wednesday, July 27th, 2016

I was reading an article regarding the habits of people who age gracefully and thought it was very interesting and something I would share. So I ask you, are you aging gracefully?

Time to take a break and see if you are aging gracefully!

I’m looking forwarding to reading your comments!

P.S. I scored an 11 and look forward to seeing what your score is….

Click Here to Take The Quiz.

I just figured it out…. I am really wealthy… thank you!

Monday, July 25th, 2016

As I get a little older I find myself reflecting a lot. I actually like doing this because it gives me a lot of clarity and allows me the opportunity to grow as a father, partner, son, brother, friend & business executive.

I think I have finally realized what life is about! Wow – perhaps a big statement that took me a long time to get too.

I truly believe it is about friends, family, and love!

I would suggest that if you have those three things, regardless of what you own or have in the bank, you are a very wealthy person.

My parents are very special people and have taught me so much, my sisters are different from each other but sweet, caring, and amazing. I am really excited to see how my kids mature & grow up – so far so good – each have an open heart and a willingness to learn…. At least some of the time. My friends – wow where do I start? When you have friends like Shu, Rep, Z, Sledge, Rooster, Woodman, and Scoop who stand behind you no matter what you feel like, you can accomplish anything! Thank you for being there and your guidance. Even though we have a pretty small family I am fortunate enough to have special people in that bucket as well Cuuuuz, Jessie, Uncle J (my second Father), and Vivian are all genuine, loving people. My partner Mary is beautiful inside & out and has so many positive qualities that I never thought was possible to possess in one person – thanks for all that you do!

With that said, I am very rich and I want to thank everyone in my life who continues to add to my wealth each and every day.

Make the Call!

Friday, July 22nd, 2016

Let me know if this sounds familiar:

  • You haven’t spoken to one of your closest friends in years?
  • You are mad at a sibling and haven’t spoken in six years!
  • You are curious what one of your childhood friends is doing?
  • You lost touch with one of your Aunts or Uncles?

Make the call!

Pick up the phone or send them an email and reach out.

The time is now. Life is way too short!

As all of us know, bad things are happening to people every single day. All of us know people who are young and have declining health.

Please make the call!

And if you do, I promise you will feel better and who knows you may even thank me later!

Thanks for considering to make the call!

I look forward to reading your comments.

Mentor – a word that has been used over and over this morning……

Wednesday, July 20th, 2016

I was sad to hear that Garry Marshall passed away. Even though I never met him, I have a lot to thank him for. Growing up watching Happy Days, Laverne & Shirley, and many other shows he provided me so much enjoyment, laughter, and meaning. He was a genius and made it very easy to relate to his characters that he created.

Earlier I was reading the outpouring of comments from all the people that Garry Marshall helped, created, and touched over his 81 years. Lots of actors and actresses are saying a tremendous amount of nice things about him and many are calling him their mentor.

That is a great word and I thought today’s post would be about mentors… yours and mine. People who have influenced your life over the years. I am going to ask each of you to pause, think for a minute, and hopefully provide a list of your mentors.

Ok I will go first – in no particular order.

  • Joel & Polann Dubrow – parents
  • Sandy Schwartz – boss
  • John Boni – boss
  • Marianne Schafer – boss
  • John Klopstock – lifelong friend of my parents and second father
  • Mrs. Hartwell – 2 grade math teacher
  • Lauren Woods – father of my college roommate

I want to personally thank each of my mentors for helping me navigate thru life. Each of you have helped me in ways that I could never explain. Whatever I have become, each of you own a part of it.

Ok your turn:

  • Please list your mentors.

I look forward to reading your comments.

Yes I could google it – but I’d rather have you explain it to me!

Friday, July 1st, 2016

For those of you who haven’t been to my office I am located in Irving, Texas and can watch the planes land at DFW airport. In the past few weeks they have started to build a large/tall structure that appears to be a water tower.

I have asked no less than 6 people “what is a water tower?” and after their initial response of it has water in it, not one person can explain more than that.

So I ask you:

  • What is a water tower?
  • What is the real purpose?
  • Does every city/state have a water tower?

I really need some help on this one and hope you will respond.

Work Ethic…….After a certain age is that something you can teach?

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2016

Recently I have had a discussion/debate with a few friends regarding work ethic. The discussion was centered around can you teach work ethic and if you have it where did it come from – meaning was it self-taught or who influenced you to get to that point.

A few days ago I sent an email to ten people who I believe have a strong work ethic. No surprise, eight people responded (thanks J.S., T.U, S.S, A.B., G.S., S.C., M.H., R.H.) in less than an hour – perhaps that supports their strong work ethic.

When I asked people why they have a strong work ethic here are a few responses:

  1. I think my strong work ethic first and foremost is a product of the way I was raised.
  2. “Good enough” is not something I ever strive for.
  3. I have a competitive desire to succeed and optimize my potential. When I see others doing well, I say to myself, “Why not me? I can do that too.”
  4. My desire to achieve something. Be a success. I wanted it all from a young age.
  5. Fear of failure and take nothing for granted.
  6. As I am the earner in my family I feel responsible to provide.
  7. I believe work ethic is tied to passion and purpose in the work you’re doing.
  8. The second influence I would point to is where you are working. What does that environment and culture dictate to the individual? Is it a group of hard workers, doers as I would call them? Or is it a group of clock punchers that are just doing the minimum job required? This molds each of us and we tend to play up to our competition to use a tennis reference. I try to surround myself with friends, colleagues, and mentors that are doers and that pushes me to do the same.

My belief is that you can teach work ethic at a young age but it is something that is very difficult to do after someone is in their mid-twenties. People can certainly change later in life but my position is it happens very rarely and the effort of trying to teach that usually doesn’t pay off.

Ok your turn:

  • If you had to guess, what % of people do you think have a strong work ethic?
  • Why do you think people have a strong work ethic?
  • Do you think that is something that can be taught to someone in their twenties?
  • I look forward to reading your comments.

Happy Birthday Dad!

Friday, June 17th, 2016

Year after year today has always been a special day in my life; but unfortunately, this year I have mixed feelings about it. Today is my dad’s 82nd birthday which, in a lot of ways, is great. He has been an amazing father, husband, teacher, mentor, disciplinarian and basically my Mr. Everything. The past year hasn’t been kind to my dad. It has included many falls, broken bones, trips to the hospital, lots of different medication, and little or no cure for what he has. All of this adds up to a sharp decline in his health.

I continue to remember all of the good days with him. The trips to Fenway Park to watch our beloved Red Sox, the family vacation to Cape Cod, and the times he would chase me around the pool table because I did something foolish. All of these memories help me get past what he is dealing with now.

Dad, Happy Birthday! I know you don’t exactly know what is going on but I hope over the years I told you enough times what you meant to me – which is everything!

For anyone who is reading this post with Father’s Day a few days away, please take a minute or two and tell your dad that you love him and what he means to you. For anyone who has lost their dad, I hope this weekend you can think of him a little more often than normal and recall all the joy you had with him.

I look forward to reading your comments.

My mom is a rock! Pure & simple!

Wednesday, June 15th, 2016

Over the last few years my dad’s health has been failing and most of the time my mom is a rock. At 80 years old she cares for him day after day and has the stamina to not slow down! My parents have been married for 55+ years and have had an amazing life together. My dad was fortunate to retire at a very early life and for the most part has been healthy since collecting his last paycheck decades ago. I always knew my dad was strong but I must say I think my mom is actually stronger. She is dealing with the greatest challenge of her life and while she watches day in and day out a loved one, her loved one and Mr. everything to her battle his declining health she continues to be strong.

Yes she has bad days and has help but most of the time deals with the situation head on and has learned at an older age to be more independent. I can only imagine how difficult that must be and day after day and she amazes me.

I miss my dad more than words could describe. Yes he is alive but he is a different dad than he used to be. My siblings and I see it when we visit or hear it daily when we call but my mom lives with it daily.

I pride myself on learning something every day. I guess todays’ learning is it’s never too late to step up, never too late to be strong and never too late to be in control and stay positive!

Thanks mom – for continuing to teach all of us!

Your kids are going on a play date….. who pays?

Monday, June 13th, 2016

Recently my kids have been going on more and more play dates. All of my kids have really nice friends and anytime someone comes over to our house, no matter what we are doing, I always pay.. And when the reverse happens, I do give them money and more times than not they never use any of it.

To be honest I have no idea the protocol and never discuss it with the other parents, I just think that is the way it should be.

Help…am I right?

  • What should happen?
  • What have you done in the past?
  • Since things are more expensive now does that come into play?

I look forward to your comments and setting me straight.